Factor X

I’m not the type of girl who can be the girlfriend with a “convenience factor.” I’m not a gas station minimart open 24/7 where you can get something you want whenever you want. I will not wait for your forever even though I love you. I will wait for you, until you start preventing me from living my own life. I am not the girl who you can hang out with when you’ve decided you’re done hanging with your friends at 5AM in the morning.

I’m a commitment. I’ll be committed to you and promise to make you the first person I care about if you’ll do the same for me. I’m not a fling. I will not be that “1 month girlfriend” or that “3 month girlfriend” or even that “5 month girlfriend.” If you’re looking for that, go pay a long-term prostitute.

I will do things for you, buy things for you, cook for you, hug you, kiss you, love you, and make you feel wanted. But, only if you’ll do the same for me. If you start ignoring me, I’ll start ignoring you. If you start to take me for granted, I’ll start taking you for granted. It’s monkey see, monkey do and it has nothing to do with how I am, it is how nature works. Psychology proves this is how little kids learn.

I’m not the girl who will sit there by the phone and wait for you to call me whenever you feel like you’re done doing whatever you’re done with. I won’t be that kind of girlfriend and I’ll certainly not be that kind of wife. So make a choice. I’m not going to be number two so you if want me, you better damn make sure that I’m number one. That’s what I deserve since it’s what I’m willing to give in return. You better start thinking as “us” instead of being selfish and thinking of “I.”

Interesting facts about the skin: Oily?

Apparently, oily skin isn’t always bad skin! Woah! I didn’t know that. The oils on your face actually make you appear younger and they help fight early wrinkles.  Hm… whatcha know?

Dr. Jeffrey Benabio: ”No. Oily skin is healthy skin.

Your skin’s main function is to protect you. Skin goes to great expense to produce natural oils to keep moisture in and irritants out. Soaps and shampoos can strip good oil off, making skin dry, irritated and unhealthy. To prevent this, especially during dry, winter months:

* Choose skin cleansers instead of soaps.
* Apply a moisturizer everyday after showering.
* Eat foods high in healthy oils such as walnuts and salmon to provide the raw materials for your skin to make its own oils.

If your skin is too oily on your face or back, then use acne treatments such as salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide to help reduce the oil. Remember, overusing acne treatments or scrubs leads to irritation which can cause your skin to produce even more oil to try to protect itself.

And when you’re feeling frustrated with your shiny face, just know that people with oily skin always look younger and develop fewer wrinkles as they age. “

 Also from sharecare: Did you know: Most moisturizers contain 65-85% water in a lotion form. The water acts as a temporary hydrating agent and allows absorption of some components and evaporation of the moisturizer.

Strangers, Again

I’m just at that time in my life where I start to question the relationship I’m in. Not because it’s gone horribly wrong, it’s because nothing is at the honeymoon stage anymore. The sad fact is I feel like I’ve had NO honeymoon stage. My relationship with “Mystery Man” (and Wendy from Wendyslookbook would call hers too) has never had that bright, sunny, fun period. We’ve always been: just us. I had the longest honeymoon period with my ex before it all went to crap. I just don’t know what’s going on or if I should be worried. However, every relationship is different, right?

I think the best video to explain what I’m thinking is: 
Wong Fu Production’s: “Strangers, again”

What I’m talking about is stage four, comfortable (according to the video). As quoted by the movie character Josh, “Being comfortable isn’t necessarily bad, its when we can truly be ourselves. But it depends on what you do with that comfort. Some use it positively, continuing to work at their relationship, and grow together. But others allow it to create distance.” I can’t help but wonder if Mystery Man and I are using our comfortable stage to grow positively into ourselves? Do we help each other grow?

Another quote from the video that keep me thinking are these simple lines: “Whether it’s taking each other for granted or people changing over time, bottom line is someone stops trying and the feelings aren’t as strong as before.”

Anything…

“I believe this to be true. If a guy is interested in you, he will call. He won’t pull any disappearing acts or suddenly get extremely busy at work. There is always time to make a quick phone call or send a text message. The bottom line is: He will make the time for you if he is into you.”  - Part of a very interesting article written by eHarmony, part of the article on why a guy stops calling.

In my opinion, it’s very true. If he/she is REALLY into you and REALLY believes that YOU are the right one, they will make time for you, they will wait for you, they will be there. It’s the bottom line.